Codependent No More读后感锦集

Codependent No More读后感锦集

2020-11-19热度:作者:hchj5.com来源:好词好句网

话题:Codependent No More 读后感 

  《Codependent No More》是一本由Melody Beattie著作,Hazelden出版的Paperback图书,本书定价:USD 15.95,页数:276,特精心从网络上整理的一些读者的读后感,希望对大家能有帮助。

  《Codependent No More》精选点评:

  ●第一次听说了 Karpman Drama Triangle 那些童年经历波折,没能建立起自己的中心感和价值感的孩纸,更容易依赖外界的评价和反应来感受到自身的价值。而解决办法就是陪着自己,耐心地感受所有的情绪。

  ●中文版,电子工业出版社。了解自己。

  ●doesnt work.

  ●From time to time I find the author & her case studies hard to deal with - even in their writing/storytelling style, they are somehow influenced by the codependency. I always try to avoid that in my own writing, though not too successfully according to my readers.

  ●依赖依赖。

  ●我几乎从来不读self help类的书,以为每个人的问题各不相同,他人经历并无太多参考价值,一切取决于和自己内心讲和。但是这本书给我带来新的视角,并慢慢帮助我走出抑郁以及分手带给我的伤痛。要爱别人以及让自己变得值得被爱,首先要爱自己。

  ●无收获. just a workbook. no explanation.

  《Codependent No More》读后感(一):抚慰过我的心灵的一本书

  很长一段时间内放在床头。

  没有处理的悲伤,对他人过度反应的时候,受害者心理的时候。

  如果你曾对亲友倾你所有,却不曾真正关心关注过你自己

  那我推荐你读这本书

  我买了MELODY的四五本书。只有这本是一字不落反复看的。这是她的成名之作,也是她前面几十年走出苦难的总结。

  《Codependent No More》读后感(二):不同寻常的关系成瘾症

  关系成瘾症(共同依赖)是在当今社会中普遍存在的。包括了:夫妻关系、父母与子女关系、同事关系、恋人关系等等。

  举2个简单的例子:

  1 前段时间上海发生的袭击警察案件,嫌疑人的母亲认为儿子行凶事出有因,不该被判极刑。杀人偿命自古天经地义,可为什么嫌疑人的母亲认为儿子情有可原呢?这里就涉及了一种子女与父母之间的一种关系成瘾问题——溺爱。

  很多父母即使在子女做错事时会为孩子找可以开脱的借口,子女一些不正常的要求,往往也会被无条件满足,久而久之,父母就失去了正常道德是非的判断,子女也认为无论什么要求父母都会满足,无论做什么事情都会得到父母的原谅。

  2 台湾曾发生过一起乱伦事件。一个单身母亲离异后带着十几岁的儿子一起生活。对儿子的要求也是百依百顺。母亲为了生活经常和一些男人在家中鬼混,而且并不回避自己的儿子。身处青春期的儿子于是从中懂得了男女之事,经常找母亲要钱去耍朋友,可母亲并没有那么多钱给儿子,母亲认为,儿子要钱耍朋友只是为了性,还不如…… 于是人间的又一出惨剧发生了。

  以上两例都是关系成瘾症若得祸,可是在当今的中国社会,对关系成瘾症还缺乏足够的重视,还亟待有识之士积极推广普及相关知识和关心、治疗这种类心理问题。

  另外,有一点需要说明的是本书是国外介绍关系成瘾症最经典也是被社会广泛认可的,从第一版至今已经有超过400万的销量,同时被翻译成十几种语言,在几十个国家出版。

  《Codependent No More》读后感(三):Worth the read

  这本书,对我个人而言,起到警示作用,按照书中和网上的信息,I was a codependent for most of my life. 我不能确定自己已经完全摆脱codependency,可以确定的是,我在恢复曲线的tip上。

  这本书的叙述方式,确实如下图的短评所说。

  如果你深陷codependency沼泽,这本书的角度,会让你觉得找到理解,从而得到慰藉。得到慰藉,然后承认(admit),是恢复的开始。

  我读的时候,时不时觉得一行行的文字 anxiety-inducing:那些感受和想法太熟悉了,和记忆互相作用,产生一种要将我拉回沼泽的力量。

  抛开个人经历。下图是我在网上找到的对于codependency的描述。

  刚开始读这本书的时候,在广播提到过,私以为,东亚社会的building blocks之一是codependency,这是一个很常见的interpersonal dynamic.

  That being said 如果在你的生活中,比较重要的人际关系中,you are tolerating instead of enjoying, 这本,或其它 有关 Codependency 的书也许有帮助。

  《Codependent No More》读后感(四):Finding you way home..

  Home is not nessesary to be where you live in now. It's a place , a circumstance, a atmosphere ,which makes you feel good ,comfortable.Feel like going home.

  It's from the new book ,named Finding your Own Home ,of Melody Beattie. Her first book moved me a lot. It's recommended by a psycology website. She pored her energy , her love to this first book.Energy she had been stored for twenty to thirty years . From her tough experiences. This book was the TIMES best seller. The arthor has been as a guest of Oprah show. Everyone came to her show became famous.

  Melody herself surfured a lot in her initial years. She was kidnapped when she was about four. Even released at the same day, the bad memory still haunted her in the later life. She was just a little girl when her mother divorced her father, an alcoholic,and married another man. Unfortunately her stepfather was not sober . Considering all her encountered, it make sense she married young. Another alcoholic. A divorced man with two kids. Bad things happened one after another. Life likes movie. She had a baby and was killed in a ski accident. That was mentioned over and over again in her books. Of course. Understandable.

  Finally,fortunately,certainly she made it. She got out. She lighted up. She made her mind to write job for two reasons. First one was to make her grief value something, the second was to help people like her. People who was once lived and affected by alcoholics,personality disorders, physical disabilites.

  These people was named co-dependents. Their personality was changed. Their thoughts,believes,behaviors changed also.They are victims of alcoholics. They are surfuring from the bad experiencs living with them.

  (to be revised about the way this book helps me about enhancing my self=esteem_

  After becoming a star, Melody changed. She wrote more books. At least seven to my knowledge. Then she bounced here and there making lectures. From US to Asia, to Africa, even to Middle-East, she's too busy to feel the real world. Of course trips are not real life. Because you have not real restrains and responsibilites in trips. When traveling abroad, everything arounds you is far from you , as if behinds a pink gloss. It's vague,it's beautiful,but not real.

  I dont' like her new books. The sentences there cannot vibrate me any more. They are full of words like" univers, ethers, phychic,chasm,etc.". All that cliches. Like all the clerics, evil regions. They all talk nonesence.